Every single one of us have heard such stories. At least one of our friends, or a friend-of-friend or even a family member who had been in a long-distance relationship. Out of every story which we heard, there are some who lived happily-ever-after. But more often than not, they start with promises to stay true and loving, but end up either drifting apart or straying. Stories of how one party came to realise that he/she can live very well without the other party, and decided that having the other party might just end up being a liability. Stories of how one party surprises the other party by flying over un-announced, and ends up shocking him/herself when he/she realises there is someone else in the relationship.
Honestly speaking, sustaining a relationship is already difficult enough. When you add oceans apart and time difference into the equation, it becomes a mind-boggling juggle and struggle to keep the relationship going. For couples who are living in different time-zone, a relationship is not only just love and care, but a lot of sacrifice thrown in. Such a relationship requires additional trust and understanding between both parties. Definitely much more than the normal amount needed in a relationship.
Luckily, Guangzhou and Singapore has no time difference. However, while my job is an almost 9am-5.30pm job, Marcus' job requires him to work late (whether in the office or at home) and over the weekends. It is very common for both of us to be either chatting on the phone or on webcam, while he is still busy replying emails at 1am.
To us, I think we both know and understand very well that making a relationship work is no walk in the park. The amount of time, effort and emotions put in, it almost seems like a 24/7 full-time job. There are no short-cuts to making a relationship work out. No secret recipes that guarantees a happily-ever-after. Just pure hard work.
We have reached a point in our lives whereby it is not just 'heehee-haha, let's go on a date, gossip about work and friends' that kind of relationship that we want. But a relationship that goes way deeper than that. Where support, love and care is given unconditionally. Where even when the whole world thinks you are the biggest joke and the biggest failure, there is some one who will tell you "You can do it".
A long-distance relationship is really a heart-wrenching experience. You are left feeling alone when there are problems in the family, there is no one to fuss over you when you are sick. When you experience joy, you can't turn around and see a smile belonging to your other half looking back at you. When you feel lost and in need of comfort, there are no warm hugs or even a familar shoulder to lean on.
A friend of ours asked me a few weeks ago on tips to making a long-distance relationship work. Honestly, I do not know how to answer it. I guess, having a common goal, and wanting to work towards a better future with both of you in it is the basic foundation.
I might not be the best girlfriend/wife in the whole wide world, and Marcus might not be the best boyfriend/husband in the whole wide world. But I think, feel and I know. That both of us are working very hard to being the best that we can be for each other. And you know what? We survived it. A long-distance relationship.
Somehow or rather, I guess, both of us managed to have the right formulae. The right attitude, the right aptitude, the right logic and reason. And with all these, I believe our future together will be somewhat the same. Together, hand-in-hand, we overcome all obstacles and face all problems together. Two missing pieces of a jigsaw puzzle, fitting perfectly together.
Honestly speaking, sustaining a relationship is already difficult enough. When you add oceans apart and time difference into the equation, it becomes a mind-boggling juggle and struggle to keep the relationship going. For couples who are living in different time-zone, a relationship is not only just love and care, but a lot of sacrifice thrown in. Such a relationship requires additional trust and understanding between both parties. Definitely much more than the normal amount needed in a relationship.
Luckily, Guangzhou and Singapore has no time difference. However, while my job is an almost 9am-5.30pm job, Marcus' job requires him to work late (whether in the office or at home) and over the weekends. It is very common for both of us to be either chatting on the phone or on webcam, while he is still busy replying emails at 1am.
To us, I think we both know and understand very well that making a relationship work is no walk in the park. The amount of time, effort and emotions put in, it almost seems like a 24/7 full-time job. There are no short-cuts to making a relationship work out. No secret recipes that guarantees a happily-ever-after. Just pure hard work.
We have reached a point in our lives whereby it is not just 'heehee-haha, let's go on a date, gossip about work and friends' that kind of relationship that we want. But a relationship that goes way deeper than that. Where support, love and care is given unconditionally. Where even when the whole world thinks you are the biggest joke and the biggest failure, there is some one who will tell you "You can do it".
A long-distance relationship is really a heart-wrenching experience. You are left feeling alone when there are problems in the family, there is no one to fuss over you when you are sick. When you experience joy, you can't turn around and see a smile belonging to your other half looking back at you. When you feel lost and in need of comfort, there are no warm hugs or even a familar shoulder to lean on.
A friend of ours asked me a few weeks ago on tips to making a long-distance relationship work. Honestly, I do not know how to answer it. I guess, having a common goal, and wanting to work towards a better future with both of you in it is the basic foundation.
I might not be the best girlfriend/wife in the whole wide world, and Marcus might not be the best boyfriend/husband in the whole wide world. But I think, feel and I know. That both of us are working very hard to being the best that we can be for each other. And you know what? We survived it. A long-distance relationship.
Somehow or rather, I guess, both of us managed to have the right formulae. The right attitude, the right aptitude, the right logic and reason. And with all these, I believe our future together will be somewhat the same. Together, hand-in-hand, we overcome all obstacles and face all problems together. Two missing pieces of a jigsaw puzzle, fitting perfectly together.
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